It sets the trajectory of life for your children:
I don’t know why people before us accepted and passed on the statement ‘A woman’s strength is equated to how much she can endure.’ When in fact, A woman’s strength lies in how much she can speak against injustices, how well she can thrive in a system that was designed for men and by men. Children who grow up seeing unstable relationships equate neglect and abuse with ‘familiarity’ and ‘comfort.’ They sub-consciously attract the same kind of situations that they saw their parents go through and this has been proven in numerous studies. We attract people based on our psychological wounds.
You set the standard for women around you:
We’re all a collective conciousness. You breaking free from the conditions you were set to, you making the best from the cards you were dealt, you taking the risks and thinking out of the box helps them progress as well. Don’t we all want the best of the best for our best friends, colleagues and sisters?
When you are content with your life, you show up better for others:
If you yourself are struggling physical ailments or deteriorating mental health, you cannot show up for your family and friends in a way they may expect you to. It would be difficult for you to even get out of your bed somedays, let alone have the energy to be there for everyone else. This in turn creates a ripple effect of discontentment.
You heal the generations before you:
We often talk about how much our mothers endured before us. But maybe, they didn’t have any other option. We have the liberty to choose a path for our own lives; which as much as is the bare minimum, they didn’t even have this. You putting yourself first and not taking shit from anyone shows them how well a life lived on one’s own terms is. It tells them it’s okay to put yourself first. It’s okay to call other people out. It’s okay to let go off of someone simply because you don’t align with them.
It’s for the collective good:
Every single time you put yourself first, take care of yourself first, think about yourself first in a society that was designed to keep women at bay, you break a link in the shackle. It’s a long journey, but you’re setting the standard for how your daughters will be treated and how your sons will be treated because the patriarchy doesn’t do anyone a favor. It’s harmful for women as well as men.
Thankyou for reading this short article. I hope you will take less time to comprehend this than it took me.